Happy New Year, Beauties! I hope your 2020 is off to a fantastic start! We are officially in the first full week of the New Year! Have you set your goals for this year?

As 2020 welcomes us, so does the possibility of the New You. It is an unavoidable hope that the New Year will bring a clean slate for us to write our lives the way we want it to be. It is a beautiful belief to hold, that we will regenerate and rebuild as the year starts again. So, we inevitably set standards for ourselves to meet, a version of ourselves that becomes our new inspiration. We try and try again each year but often we find ourselves falling short of the person we set out to become with full conviction on New Year’s Eve.

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So, what is it that we do wrong that we become stuck in a cycle of unfulfilled resolutions and goals? Maybe it is the goals themselves. Let us look at practices that may make rewriting ourselves entirely this year a little more manageable.

Listen to Yourself

We find ourselves, often, trying to live up to become the version of ourselves that has been sponsored by someone else’s opinions and validations. It is time to quiet down the voices in your head that are not your own. Try to listen to what it is that your heart is saying. If you find yourself in the same sort of situations, maybe you are short-tempered again, maybe you skip breakfast and you are exhausted again in the span of a few hours. Whatever it may be, it will be a familiar kind of distress. For situations like those, the answer usually lies within. Shut everything else out and listen to what your body and mind are asking for. Those goals are the ones you will want to commit to.

Unburden Yourself

The weight you really should commit to losing this year is the one you have been carrying on your conscience and heart. Forgiveness is the universal key to feeling lighter. When it comes to holding grudges about what other people have done, it burns you from the inside out. Although there is no success formula for forgiving others, you can start by acknowledging that it is okay to let it go.

However, forgiveness is not limited to others. There are things weighing down on your conscience too. Forgiving yourself is definitely more complex, but a good place to start this year is by accepting that you are only human – with flaws, vulnerabilities, and limits.

Accepting You Are Human

Start out this year by accepting the human part of you. Do this by making your goals human, too. Set out small goals and reward yourself for whatever extent of your goals you can accomplish. This will give you the sense of accomplishment you need to be motivated to complete your resolutions. Set goals that are broad such as “meditation in times of anxiety” instead of “yoga everyday”. This will allow you to feel liberated within the goals you set for yourself.

Also, make your goals about accepting weaknesses. When you acknowledge what you cannot do, your narrative turns from self-deprecating to self-motivating.

Practice Gratitude Like a Habit

The most important goal for this year should be gratitude. Perception is the key to determining everything, while you may be suffering between a rock and a hard place. Your outlook upon life may change your entire approach to it. Gratitude transforms the mundane into the surreal. You will realize what gold you witness every day. Every day of the New Year will start feeling like a fresh start. The things that have been routine for ages will start feeling novel. When you practice gratitude like a habit, you can motivate yourself to complete all the other goals you set out for yourself too.

I begin and end each day with gratitude. Every morning, when I work on my goals, growth and spirituality, I include gratitude. Writing down 10 things I am grateful for every single morning. It’s made a huge impact in many areas of my life.

Your Mind and Body Go Hand in Hand

It is not only for the health freaks to look after what your body is saying you need. Whether it is breakfast at least 3 days a week or a complete cycle of sleep at a reasonable hour, this is what is going to make your year shine. Your body houses your mind and it is up to you to make it a happy home. Set goals for your health which are manageable: hydrate, take a walk or some form of movement, have some greens, soak in the sun, implement stress-management tools, get some rest. When things may not be looking up for your state of mind, your body can always be given a boost with a little care and concern.

find an accountability partner

When it comes to setting goals, you may find a greater amount of success achieving them by locking arms with an accountability partner. Someone to keep you accountable can come in many forms. Ask a co-worker to team up and support one another while working on some career or business goals. Grab a girlfriend and join a fitness class or hold one another accountable at the gym. Ask your spouse or significant other to help you stay accountable on goals you (or the both of you) have. Hire a coach. Investing in a coach can help you find attentional support and accountability for success.

What goals are you setting for this year? I would love to hear!

If you’re feeling the need for additional support or a system for success, I welcome you to book a FREE Discovery Session with me. I would love to hear your goals for the year and discuss how I can support you. I welcome you to reach out to me here… Let’s Chat!

Cheers to a healthy, happy and successful year!

XOXO,

Kim

It’s the last day of the year and many of us are making “resolutions” for the New Year ahead. Have you thought about the goals you want to achieve in 2017? Do you worry about them sticking or how they will play out? So many people make resolutions for the New Year but quickly fall back into their old habits. That’s why I am sharing these Top 5 Tips for Making Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick.

1. Make Sure Your Goals Are Clearly Defined

I was that gal who made resolutions and jumped into the New Year with enthusiasm and excitement. I set goals that were often times black and white. They left me feeling frustrated when I didn’t accomplish them. Now I set clear, attainable goals with a better plan and mindset. I also write them down. The pen and paper can be pretty powerful. Don’t just think about it. Write it down!

Create specific, challenging but sustainable and “doable” goals. Set goals with a positive mindset and clear path. Break them down into action steps that don’t seem painful to think about. A positive mindset will play a huge part in your success. If you hit a roadblock or your plan changes, allow for some flexibility and adjustment. You don’t have to give up. Just alter the plan a bit.

2. Scratch the Idea of Instant Gratification

So many people want everything right now! Instant gratification may sound great, but often times, the process and journey is what really creates us. Yes, you may hit some roadblocks and frustrations along the way, but it’s not always a bad thing. Instead of looking at a goal as a pain in the ass, hard to accomplish task, think of it as a path to a more incredible YOU!

The concept of instant gratification often leads to procrastination, self-sabotage, stress, anxiety and frustration. To break free from the “instant gratification desire,” know what you want, create a community to support you, plan for “success celebrations” that keep you focused and anticipate road blocks along the way. Remember, the journey may reveal some pretty amazing things! Have patience, my dear.

3. Get Up When You Think You’ve Slipped Up

I’ve touched on road blocks a few times because it’s highly possible that you’ve experience some of your own. I am sure you will experience many more down the road. That doesn’t mean you need to throw in the towel and give up.

Instead of beating yourself up and giving up on your goals, throw on those big girl stilettos and keep doing your thing. Tell that negative voice in your head to go away and keep working towards your goals! Our mindset plays a huge part in our success, and it’s something that we need to be aware of on a daily basis. If you want those goals, keep going after them. Even when things don’t go according to plan. Remember, you may have to change direction but don’t give up! ?

4. Share Your Goals

Sharing your goals with others has many benefits. Accountability and community help us a great deal when we are trying to accomplish goals. If you share your goals with others, you will be more inclined to stick to them. In addition, the support from others helps when you’ve hit a roadblock or feel like giving up.

You may find that you share similar goals with others. Maybe you have a friend who is looking to lose some weight this year. Maybe you want to clean out things in your life and make room for things that serve you better. Maybe you’ve thought about hiring a coach or finding a positive support system.

Having others to talk to and share experiences with can really help. You may find more clarity as well. Don’t be afraid to share. It will help you along the journey.

5. Make Time (Not Excuses)

How many times do you say you’re too busy to do something? Your day may be filled with work, the kiddos, carpool, commitments with friends, planning your meals and squeezing in some time for you (If you’re even making it).

Yes, we are all busy! Time goes by rather quickly during the day, but this is where planning is key! Maybe you need to carve out some extra time in the morning or evening. Consider switching up some current activities (especially those that do not serve you well). Maybe for once, you need to make that time for you! Ladies, it’s not selfish. I know I say this all of the time, but it’s so true!

Instead of making up a bunch of excuses, make time. What activity can you add to your schedule that you enjoy? Who can you ask to join you? Start small and be easy on yourself. Talk to your family and ask them for support. If something comes up, it’s OK! Create additional space in your calendar. Also, drop the guilt!

It’s pretty incredible the things you can accomplish when you make these simple changes and others.

When it comes to your goals this New Year, I encourage you to try some of these tips. They’ve been a game changer in my life, and I want you to experience the same. If you’ve found these tips (or others) helpful, I would love to hear about it. I welcome you to comment below or message me.

if you’re looking to accomplish goals this year and want some help and accountability, i welcome you to contact me. setting clear goals, having accountability and finding a good support system help pave a solid path to success.

Kim Wilson

Empowering Women to Live the Nourished Life

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Setting New Goals In the New Year